Rules for dating a non musician

of cynicism, here is a guide to relationship DON’Ts when dating a musician in a band. Even as a girl, I wholeheartedly defend the no-girlfriends rule. I’ve certainly been that girl who's gone to a dude’s band practice. Please, for the love of God, don’t go to sound check.

Should I just write all affectedly in my goth diary? But if you’re just going to stand around and watch, well, then you’re an added dead weight that we’re metaphorically carrying.

Rules for dating a non musician

They sleep on a pile of garbage bags next to a pile of their own vomit. We might be at a party having a great night together, and then I get a song idea and have to lock myself and my instruments (look, sometimes I do bring them with me, you never know) in the bathroom for a while because it's a very good chord progression. Get ready to listen to a bunch of songs about their exes.

However, most of my band mates and musician friends basically live on a stack of pizza boxes, whisky, and Muscle Milk. If they are inspired to write something, whatever you're doing has to stop. On some level, you have to think that my band is the best band in the world because we are really great, but also because you're with me and you think 9.

If you are attending a sound check as an event, turn back now. Most likely, you’re really cool and a great person to hang out with for days on end which is why our bandmate is dating you. And do you really want to be trapped in a van with a bunch of people who haven’t showered and who keep cracking the window because they farted after eating dinner at a gas station? You don’t Do not, under any circumstances, except for certain circumstances, discourage your partner from being in their band.

Not only is it, again, distracting for the band, but it’s, again, boring for you to hear each individual drum head hit over and over and over. I’ve been dragged to enough sound checks to know that the only one I should ever be at is my own. But the thing is, there are already too many people in the van. Think about this for a minute: do you really want the four of us to stand over your shoulder at your job where you’ve convinced your coworkers that you are a professional, upstanding member of society? If we told you you’re not allowed to watch football or garden or make films or build tiny ships in bottles or work out at the gym or do whatever it is you like to do, you would probably be super bummed.

There might be days when the only time we talk is when I call you at 2 a.m. It's got to be kind of weird to listen to them, but you're here now and they're not.

Also your shoes will always be sticky now and I do not have a solution. They will go on tour and boom — now they are invisible. OK, I just need to say in all the caps in the world: This. All those songs I played you when we first met couldn't have been about you.This way, I'll still talk to other people, but mentally I'm like, 2. from a loud, broken-down tour bus because that was the only time I could call. When your special friend gets to do the positive things he or she wants to do, this benefits you because now you are involved with a happier, more receptive person, which makes for a better relationship. Like, if SO’s band practices are used purely as an excuse to be a drug addict, or if dude quits his job to be a full-time musician when his band hasn’t even scratched the surface of the local music scene, then fine, you can get mad all you want. When you’re on tour you don’t have much time to A) meet someone and B) convince someone to sleep with you.Don’t worry that your SO is going to cheat on you while on tour because most likely they won't. And C) the people who throw themselves at you without any convincing are usually the gross kind who make you wish you were at home with your nice girlfriend/boyfriend.2.And even if you manage to escape to a second location without your bandmates, you still have to coordinate with all of these people about how they’re going to find you in the morning.

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